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Courting Psychology - Picking up chicks!
By: Muggaz

After reading his post I began to ponder how men analyze women & vice versa. Sure there are magazines that tell us: "How to pick-up chicks/men". Even some analyze another person by their astrological sign, hair color, palms, etc. to determine personality. My favorite type of article is when one person tries to sum it up for everyone.

For Example: (Ask Mr. Answer Man)
Do men really prefer dating skinny women?
Take it from me -- skinny has got nothing to do with it. In fact, a large part of the allure women hold for men is about the places where they're not skinny. (My favorite example is the pooch. You look down and grimace at it while you work out on the Stairmaster, but all day long your man is thinking about the time when he gets to come home and rest his head on it.)
Men want to date women who are fun and attractive. Attraction, as you well know, is a chemical kind of thing -- it just happens, and good luck avoiding it when it does. And fun, frankly, is an attitude, an ever vigilant determination to find the element of play in any given situation -- certainly something you could cultivate, but not a physical attribute. Best of all, if you and a guy are having fun together, chances are the attraction thing is happening too.
Now, obviously, it won't hurt things one bit if you're working out and eating right, but those are things you do for yourself, right? Which is my point: Take care of yourself, go for fun, and forget about trying to be skinny. (Even if you are skinny.)
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After reading this I want to go and scarf my face with Ho's Ho's and drop any ambitions of wanting to be a MILF in life. Why do women care what the heck men think about their physical being. Sure I use to be obsessed about that sort of thing... therefore battling an eating disorder despite it. I quit caring how others wanted me to be and now practice a healthy lifestyle which makes me feel good mentally, physically and spiritually. Alright I need to stop on this tangent because I will go on .....
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I have even come across such articles as to why men date younger women as well as women dating younger men.....

Do age differences matter?

Mr. Answer Man says: Well, yes, they matter -- a significant difference in age is at once a great part of the attraction and a source of much trouble. But Mr. Answer Man is guessing that you're wondering what goes through a guy's mind when he involves himself with either a much younger or much older woman. It's embarrassingly simple.

Sex.
An older woman is much more straightforward about her sexual appetite and much more appreciative of a younger man's, oh, let's call them jackrabbit intensities. Younger women can be relationship obsessed and tend to constantly look to the future, wondering where they and the relationship are going. Older women live much more in the moment, and their confidence and competence are totally appealing.
Sex and a nubile body.
And that's not all. A younger woman makes a man feel worldly and experienced, sexually as well as socially, which is intensely flattering. (And I'm sure we can all think of men for whom it seems to have become addictive.)
Now, obviously, this isn't all that's going on, but Mr. Answer Man has to be honest -- it's a large part of the draw.
> It's a fact. If you walk past a group of guys, they are physically unable to resist the urge to ogle. Ever wonder why are men such boys? Do they ever grow up and notice the inner woman? After all, beauty is only skin deep, and we want a man to admire us for more than a seductive arrangement of body parts. As a public service, I conducted a poll asking men at different stages of their lives what attracts them to a woman. Their answers were very ... educational. 20: THE MORE THE MERRIER "I'm a legs and butt man," says Andrew, a 23-year-old stockbroker. He explains, "My first thought when I see a woman advertisementis, 'Do I want to have sex with her?' That cuts out 70 percent right away. At this stage of my life I'm not particularly looking for anything long-lasting." That's probably because most male twenty-somethings have one burning desire: to build a successful career. In terms of women, well, the more the merrier. Men in their twenties want a pretty woman, an ornament on their arm to show their boss and the world: "Hey, I must be really cool to attract such a hot babe." There's a hope at the end of this semi-shallow tunnel of youth: As men in their twenties age, they begin learning from experience. "You get knocked around a few times by women with big knockers and you realize a pretty face isn't everything," says 27-year-old Peter, a marketing consultant. "But I'm still initially attracted to someone's looks. So any busty blondes reading this can contact me through the Website. But I also want a woman who's sensitive because, hey, I got feelings." 30: STABILITY -- AND SANITY Jim, a comic, recalls, "When I was seven I wanted a girl who could make a good sand castle. At 17, she just had to be stacked. At 27, she couldn't want to be my wife. Now that I'm 30 I want somebody sane and stable. The bottom line: While a cute tush still makes my head turn, it's the gray matter that keeps me interested." As he enters his thirties, a man's taste in women definitely changes. After the initial experimental stage where he dates a lot of people, he looks for a woman to fill certain roles, like wife and mother. Another way to put it: He's refining his taste. He knows he can't spend all his time in bed. The mid-to-late thirties are often the period when men give in to their urge to settle down. At 39, Paul, a computer consultant, is no longer looking to date, but to mate. "I want someone who looks like a good baby-maker, not an anorexic who's afraid to put a cookie in her mouth." 40: COMPANIONSHIP Men in this age range still think a roll in the hay is nice, but now they're more eager for substance. They want to be nurtured. If you're up for the job, the 40s man may be yours for the taking. Many of them are burnt out, making tons of money and lonely as hell because they have no one to share their success. Still not convinced? Listen to 41-year-old Stuart, a computer systems VP. "Now that I'm in my wise forties, I'm more interested in the character of the person than the package it comes in. Is she caring? Is she as giving as she is taking? Those are the questions I ask myself about the women I meet." The aphrodisiac for Stuart, as for many over-40 men, is compatibility. If there isn't a certain comfort level with a woman at this stage of a man's life, a relationship can be very frustrating. Bob, a 41-year-old advertising executive, knows this frustration. "It would be easier to meet someone if my primary interest was looks. But if I don't connect with someone in a cerebral way, I lose interest fast. I want to be with someone who laughs at my jokes, who'll take care of me when I'm sick, and let me take care of her. This seems like a mission impossible." Yes, the 40s man is sensitive, but he's also prone to mid-life crises and heavy-duty alimony payments. Find this disheartening? Just keep in mind that some of the most compatible love matches are between older women and younger men. Why? These two age grooves are actually the most sexually in sync of any combo out there. Coo-coo-ca-choo, Mrs. Robinson. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________T Although there is some truth, the point I am trying to get across is.... you can ask/ search for advice until water magically turns to wine, but you will never know the real feelings/truth to how the opposite sex really feels until you ask. Besides these articles are all on a general level. Everyone is an individual. We all have our own personal preferences, quriks, or what have you.
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Comment on: Courting Psychology - Picking up chicks!

Mmmm... the psuedo guy described is an asshole. Yes, it is true women liked to be complemented. Who doesn't? BUT not all the freakin' time... it becomes overkill. In other words: If complements are being thrown around they become taken less seriously. Personally I rather be told the truth when I ask an opinion on my appearence.
Example:

Me- Do these pants make my legs look like two tube- sausages?
Guy- They are a little tight, but it makes your ass look booty-licious
Me-
Guy-
Me-
Guy-
*****Censored****
(1/2 hour later)
Guy-
Me-

*Smirks* I know I got carried away. Seriously though... if the truth is being told more often than bullshit, then the real complements are more meaningful.

For me sense of humor is the key! Sure when we scope someone out we take appearences into consideration first..... it is only natural. Hey, he may be a pretty-boy, but if there is nothing upstairs, it is like having cake without frosting. You gotta have the Main 3: A sense of humor, brains, and confidence. It makes everything more attractive.

There is a fine line between Cocky and an Asshole.
Cocky: self-confidence, gets what he/she wants, self-sacraficing, considerate.
Asshole: self-confidence, gets what he/she wants not caring who gets hurt

Keyword: consideration...
Ever see an asshole step down gracefully when they are wrong?

I am getting on a tagent...
Success is slow and steady.
Point being: Nice guys may finish last, but they get the better woman in the end.